Message Prompts For Getting Started
It's ok to not know what to say and to be afraid of saying the wrong thing. Nobody wants to hurt someone that they care about. Below you will find some helpful tips and categories to help you draft your prescription of love. These are not all-inclusive categories- people you love may be struggling with any sort of battle- but hopefully these give you a place to start.
For a more thorough understanding of the Don'ts please click here to read an article on verywellmind.com. These do's and don'ts are applicable to many mental health conditions as well.
Do
+Tell them you care
+Tell them you love them
+Be available
+Express empathy
+Express understanding
+Be supportive
Don't
-Minimize/deny their feelings
-Dismiss their symptoms
-Use Toxic Positivity
-Compare your experiences to theirs
-Express apathy
-Call them selfish
-Imply they aren't doing enough
Anxiety
1. I wanted to check in with you because you have seemed anxious lately. It can be hard dealing with anxiety, so never be afraid to take your time. Those who care about you will try to understand and help you when you’re struggling. You are loved and you are cared for.
2. I wanted to check in with you because you have seemed anxious lately. Anxiety can be overwhelming, but always remember I am here for you even on your worst days. You are loved, no matter what.
3. I wanted to check in with you because you have seemed anxious lately. I know it can be difficult to talk about your fears, worries and/or triggers, but they are all valid and you are not silly for having them. You are cared for, no matter what.
Bullying
1. I just wanted to send a note reminding you how special you are. You belong and you are good enough.
2. I just wanted to remind you how important you are. You are strong, you are smart and you are loved. I am always here for you.
3. I just wanted to send you a note commending your strength. You are perfect how you are, and you are brave for dealing with adversity. People can be mean, but they may need love too. You are spectacular.
Depression
1. I wanted to check in with you because you have seemed down lately. You’re important to me and your life is important to me. Your life makes a difference to me and others.
2. I wanted to check in with you and tell you I love you. I may not understand exactly what you're going through, but you’re not alone. I am here for you anytime you want to talk.
3. I wanted to check in with you because you have seemed down lately. It’s OK to feel this way. It takes great strength to battle with depression, but you do not need to face it alone, I am here for you.
Miscellaneous
1. I’ve noticed you have seem stressed lately and I wanted you to know I'm here for you. I'm willing to help with anything you may need even if it's just listening. I love you and I'm here for you!
2. I’ve noticed you have been feeling down recently. Any problems you are facing now, you have support. You have people who care about you and will help you get through these trying times.
3. I wanted to remind you of how much I love you! You can always talk to me about anything, without judgement. You are my person and I will always be here for you!
Sexuality
1. I can't begin to imagine the emotions and feelings you are going through. Just know I am here and love you no matter what. I will always be a safe place and accept you for you.
2. I may not understand what you are going through but I want you to know I am willing to learn and educate myself so that I can better support you. I will always love you; nothing can change that.
3. I wanted to say I am sorry for ever making you think I could not love you for being true to yourself. I accept you and your true self always. I have a lot to learn, but for you it is worth it and I will always love and care for you.